When my kid start to say bad words...

Zaim banyak belajar kat school... selain dari lessons from teachers, he also bring back everything he learn from his friends. Kalau yang elok, Alhamdulillah.. but mind you, banyak jugak yang tak elok di bawak balik and kalau tak monitor betul-betul menurun pulak ke Aariz. *sigh

Sekarang, paling mencabar lah mendidik Zaim supaya tak terikut-ikut ayat-ayat kartun or drama or movie yang tak elok... Zaim bukan lah tengok pun citer2 hantu or movie melayu ni... (entah kenape la kan trend sekarang ni byk citer hantu yang I personally think ianya sangat mengarut!)... He still prefer Playhouse Disney or any Disney movie... Masalah nye sekarang dia ni tiru ape kawan2 dia cakap je... Macam Boboiboy, Mommy dah pun banned this series in Bahasa. Kalau in English, boleh. Sebabnye bahasa dia memang sangat tak sesuai... Pernah one time, Mommy suruh Zaim stop main computer and mandi, dia boleh stomp his feet sambil cakap.. "Kau niiiii" Hohoh sentapppppp Mommy!

Actually I dont mind dia ber kau aku with his friends... even though I feel he is too young for that... =(  Tapi mungkin ini memang cara boys la kan... Kang orang lain ber kau-aku, dia pulak menten saya-awak or I-U or Zaim... nampak ya-aw-awwww pulak kan.. ;P Tapi itula kan influence kawan-kawan banyak mana sangat kite boleh control... I'm not blaming his friends at all, yelah, secara logic nye, memang banyak bad influence kat luar tu, so tugas kite la mendidik anak kite so that bad influence tu tak menyerap ke hati anak-anak kite...

The first bad word yang Zaim bawak balik rumah ialah... "Tanak la... taik"... Yes memang unbelievable.. my sweet loving boy saying that to my maid. He said that just for fun... Bagi dia macam bergurau... But mase I dengar this, memang urut dada... It is not easy to stop him from saying that.... Maybe dah terbiase bergurau macam tu kat school, am not sure.. Tapi memang pening fikir cemane laaa nak stop kan dia cakap bad words like this... I did talk slowly, explain and sometimes, baru tegur seminit dia cakap lagi... Siap ajar Aariz cakap tu... Aariz pulak memang tengah catching up talking.. 100% mengikut je ape Zaim cakap... Ade time meletup jugak Mommy marah Zaim sampai nangis2 dia.. "Zaim sorry Mommy. I promise I dont say bad words anymore"... Aariz pun comel aje.. "Toooweee mommy"... Tapi itula.. sekejap lagi sebuttt lagi macam tu...

Until one day, I dapat idea, tukar handling when Zaim say bad words... Instead of tegur and correct him, I strictly said "Zaim, am going to Jusco now, with Babah and Aariz. You tak boleh ikut because you said bad words.. Mommy and Babah tanak kawan orang cakap bad words. So you stay home with Bibik" 


Maka berjurai-jurai la airmata anak bujang saya mintak ampun... Pegang kaki lagi tu... "Mommy... am sorry Mommy... Zaim tak cakap bad words dah... Sorry Mommy..." But I firmly reply, "Ok, I forgive you but still you cant join us, because you said bad words..." 

Dalam hati Mommy, samelah berjurai-jurai.. Sedih tinggalkan anak yang meraung-raung kat grill pintu... Tak penah lagi Mommy tinggal Zaim camni... except pergi keje lah... =(

After 10 minutes, I checked with my maid, Zaim dah stop crying tapi asik tenung kat luar tunggu Mommy balik... At first I decided nak tinggal dia 10 minutes je... But after discussing with Bie, we both decided not to turn back... Sebabnye, nanti Zaim tak belajar.. dia tau Mommy tinggal kejap je nanti Mommy datang balik.. Mommy kan selalu cair.... So we came back after 2 hours...

We bought him few books - as he is really catching up reading skill ;)

-gambar from en google-

Another reason is, skit2 tu rase bersalah and sayu  sebab tinggal dia... Sedeeeyyy tau tinggal dia.. so tak pasal-pasal dalam denda-denda dapat hadiah pulak... Untung la kamu Zaim...

Once we reached home, Zaim tegur Mommy

Zaim: Mommy jangan buat lagi tau... Kenape Mommy tinggal Zaim?

Mommy: Kenape Mommy tinggal Zaim?

Zaim: Sebab I said bad words

Mommy: Next time nak cakap lagi tak?

Zaim: Tanak...But Mommy janganlaaa tinggal Zaim tau... Kesiannnn Zaim... Babah pun sama, jangannn tinggal Zaim lagi....Ok?

-sempat lagi kan, dia pulak yang bagi reminder kat Mommy and Babah-

Mommy: Ok, kalau Zaim tak cakap bad words, Mommy tak tinggal lah...ok?

Zaim: Ok Mommy... Sorry Mommy...

And denda ini adelah lebih berkesan... Zaim terus tak cakap bad words lagi... ;)

I googled about this issue and found out that am not alone in this problem... Expected to hear lagi byk bad words soon... huhuhu but am prepared... Hopefully I will able to teach my kids not to use bad words... Wish me luck... *not easy kan jadi Mommy ni....*

Mishyu! ;)

Hello... lama nya Mommy tak update gambar kitorang kat sini... Busy sgt Mommy ni... Hehehe.. Mommy tu busy sebab pertama, dia dah tuka keje yg start 8.30am... which is dia kene wake up early every morning and sebab tu dia tido awal sekarang.. Insomnia Mommy dah baik... ;P Sekarang ni malam-malam Mommy yang paling ngantok dlu... ;P Nak tergelak kitorg tengok dia kol 8 dah nguap2 nak tido... Khkehkhekeh tu la Mommy dah biase bangun lambat kan... ;p Sekarang rasekannnn hahaha...

Tapi sebab tu jugaklaaa Mommy tade mase nak update blog... Kalau dulu selalu mata Mommy tu segar je sampai kol 4 pagi... tu yg rajin berblogging time kitorg tdo... Pastu pulak kat office baru Mommy kene kerah abis-abisan to meet dateline... Balik rumah pulak kitorg kerah dia abis-abisan jugak... Mana tak flat Mommy kitorg ni... Now rasenye Mommy dah bleh adapt new routine.. Nampak stable skit la Mommy skg.. Hehehe.. rasenye2 lepas2 ni boleh la Mommy rajin update blog balik... kan Mommy kan? kan? kan?

Heheh InsyaAllah ;)

Baru 2...

I love big family... I plan to have 6 kids... Yes 6! Maybe 2 boys, 4 girls.. Or 3 boys and 3 girls... Or maybe 6 boys... O_o Hahah frankly, I am really fine with that... Hurmmm... Ok I lied, maybe not so fine to have 6 boys as I sometimes having difficulties to raise my 2 boys. But wait... who knows by the time I get 4 boys, I become expert in handling boys and I can raise 6 without any issue kan kan kan? Hurmm sound too positive la plak... Hahaha..

My boys.. The two little boys are my precious. Day by day, they demand more attention from me... I tell you, I thought, it will be easier to raise 4yo and 2yo boys than raising a baby... but am totally wrong. Growing kids lagi demand byk attention dari baby...Baru 2, dah tak menang tangan nak melayan... Now baru kite tahu, susah senang menjadi ibu ni kan...  Memang perlukan kesabaran yang tinggi.... So that means, no. 3 nanti dlu... Huhuh... Mommy kene focus kat yang 2 ini, yang super ligat ini...

Nway, Happy mother's day to all.. Sorry a lil bit late... Too hooked with title Mommy... hahahah... How was ur Mother's day celebration? Mine, very simple. Bought flowers and gift to both my mom and MIL. And for me, I just spent the evening kat playground... Ape lagi yang lagi sesuai kan for the two lil active kids tu... At least at playground I can stop saying "No" to my kids...

Last but not least, just want to share with you, my priceless gift for Mother's day'....

 Ajak Mommy main swing...

 Weee.. So happy..

 Seronok dapat tangkap gambar Aariz happy camni....

Sangat susah nak dapat..

 Smileeee..

 Now badminton session with Zaim...

Then, playground timeee..

Then, silly face time...

And finally makan time... ;)

Alhamdulillah... am blessed ;)

Teacher Mommy!

 That's my latest nickname... Zaim yang bagi...;)

Seriously, walopun Zaim masuk school at age of 30months, Mommy tak pernah sekelumit pun dalam hati nak tekan kan sgt pasal academic for Zaim. Itu pon Zaim yang beriya-iya nak pegi school... Ikutkan Mommy nak anta dia at age 4. So at age 3, ape yang Mommy nak, Zaim enjoy pergi school, pergi main2 ngan kawan-kawan, swimming, nyanyi2...main gym.. sume tu for fun je. Memang mahal la sekadar nak main2 setiap term perlu bayar mencecah ribuan tapi, memang berbaloi bile tengok dia improve dari segi social, academic and vocab especially. Sebab tu Mommy berusaha anta Zaim pergi good school jauh-jauh semata-mata tanak bebankan Zaim with homework. Ade kan I pernah cakap setiap branch Q.dees tak sama... Ade yg bagi homework at age 3! Ade yang tak bagi... For me, I dont think homework is necessary at this age... For me, dia kenal ABC, kenal 123, tau tulis name, tau drawing and colouring, tau nyanyi, pun dah cukup bagus. In fact, kalau dia rajin nak ke school pun dah bagus sgt.. Cuba kite, umo 3 tahun kene bgn kol 7 pagi, pergi school... Mau ke kite agaknye? Hahaha I cakap ni because mase I dulu2 darjah 2 pun masih liat bangun pagi nak pergi school... ;P Pun masuh kene dukung mandi... ;P

Biasenye, balik school, Mommy akan tanya Zaim, today belajar ape? Zaim ni berat mulut skit nak citer pasal school.. Jawapan paling cikai.. "Belajar ABC.. nyanyi2".. Full stop. Jawapan standard Mommy dapat ni dari setahun lepas. Tade dah nak citer ape2 lagi.. Korek kot mane pun dia tak nak cite... Takpe lah kan.. As long as dia tak citer any problem with teacher ke ape kire okay la kan... Kalau Mommy ajak main drawing2 pun kejap je dia suke, then dia akan conteng2 je... Kaler pun tak cantik.. Comoooot sgt.. Cincai2 je..

So, sebab tu Mommy terkejut, bile ttbe Zaim request Mommy jadi Teacher Mommy... Zaim suh Mommy ajar la ape-ape... In other words, he ask me for extra homework... O_o... Mommy ingatkan Zaim tak minat lagi nak buat sume ni... But bile dia request camni, Mommy happy. Kalau dah dia yang mintak, ape salahnye kan...

So, this month memang Mommy ligat bershopping alat-alat tulis, buku2 activities and buku2 subject lain yang simple for him... Also art stuff for him... Sangat amazing bile Zaim sangat menurut cakap Mommy... Walopun sekali sekala, ade jugak kua dari mulut dia, "Ape Teacher Mommy ni, garang lah..." Hahahah... kekadang tu dia cakap "Kenape lah Teacher Mommy ni suke marah Zaim ni... Kesian Zaim tengah colour ni..." Mane tak garang, asik kene loyar buruk je ngan student... Hihih... Contoh kan, dia kaler tak cantik, terkeluar2 gambar sume, comot, Mommy cakap byk kali, "kaler inside je la abang...not nice la camni.. kaler slowly lah..." Dia bleh replied cakap "Alaaa... this color, Orange ni, nak pergi kedai... jauhhhhh sangat, kene laju-laju... nanti dia balik la inside.." Boleh? Kire valid ke alasan tu untuk kaler comot2 camtu? :P Kadang-kadang tu bile kite terlebih nasihatkan dia buat cara betul dia akan cakap "Kenape Teacher Mommy ni, cakap banyak-banyak kat Zaim ni... " Sabar jelah kan, kite plak yang di kata banyak cakap...

Inilah muke boring student Mommy; waiting for Teacher Mommy start kelas...

Terus sengih bile cakap, "Okay, Teacher Mommy ready!"

So now, everyday, before balik kerja, Teacher Mommy kene siap2 dah fikir, nak ajar ape kat Zaim... Belom sempat Mommy bukak tudung, Zaim dah request Mommy jadi Teacher Mommy... Terus duduk kat dining; sambil menongkat dagu panggil Mommy " Teacher Mommy!!! kesian Zaim duduk sini sorang-sorang dalam class ni...Zaim nak belajar..." Mommy memang penat, tapi mengenangkan tengok anak bersemangat nak belajar, Mommy gagahkan juga, melayan kerenah dia... Paling suke, bile tengok dia focus buat keje yang Mommy suruh... Priceless!

 Sgt suke tengok muke dia focus camni...

Currently, Teacher Mommy focuskan activities macam connect the dot, trace lines, colouring, match, counting and recognize letter; capital and small and also art. Ade jugak start phonics skit2... Btw, I'll start the class upon his request, and I'll stop the class pun upon his request.. In other words, memang it is all up to him. If he feels tired or bored, he can request to change subject... From my observation, he loves to do all of the activities proposed by me, but he not really into writing yet... except if there is a trace, baru dia nak tulis... Kalau nak tulis saje2 tu, tulis name je dia nak, and number 1. Yang lain tanak, dia kate susah... Takpelah... Maybe belom sampai tahap tu lagi... I know sooner or later, he will able to write on his own...

 Btw, for coloring activities, I choose Stabilo Jumbo Colored Pencils...

Memang ideal for kid's hand... Senang grip! 

P/S: Selama ni selalu terdetik dalam hati, seronoknye tengok Mommies out there yang buat home-schooling with their kids... Tak sangka sekarang boleh jugak merasa... =) Alhamdulillah...

 Peace!!! ;)

Wakey wakey Zaim ;)

Kadang-kadang, bukan senang nak kejut Zaim for school. Depends on his mood and my luck. Mesti sangat hati-hati nak kejut. Start with Bismillah and doa supaya sabar banyak-banyak melayan kerenah dia hari ni. Lain hari lain ragam. Huhu...Normally I approach him with very soft voice but with nada yang ceria... call for his name, dari nama penuh ke nama manja ke nama mucuk dia sumelah... Sambil-sambil tu kene la kan buat lawak skit-skit, tickle-tickle skit-skit... Bile dah celik and dah tersengih-sengih tu, ajak mandi la pulak kan.... Ade time, dia okay terus mandi but ade time dia refuse! And... time ni laaaaaaa paling susah...

Whoaaa mimpi laa Zaim nak bangun sengih camni... ;P

Walopun dah bukak mata, pejam balik. Walopun dah sengih, tutup muke balik. 1001 alasan kua dari mulut tanak gi school, penat, demam, taleh bukak mata, and all... 1001 jawapan jugak kene balas balik dengan penuh sabar and kasih sayang dengan harapan si anak bangun ke sekolah. Silap tone suara, alamatttt bad mood terus nangis lah jawabnye... Tak syok la plak kan kalau dah ade drama pagi-pagi... Tu yang kadang stress jugak bile it takes about 15-20 minutes sometimes just utk acara pujuk memujuk bangun tido... Bayangkan pagi-pagi itu kadang-kadang Mommy dah kene main puzzle seround dua, or racing lari-lari beberapa lap sampai ke toilet just to cheer him up so that he wake up with the good mood. Bile dah mandi, his mood 100% okay and happy nak pegi school... Fuuuhhhh... baru bleh tarik nafas lega...Time ni amat lucky jugak sebab 7.30am while waiting for Atuk, Zaim tengok Hi-5 kat NTV.7.

Yesterday, terdetik kat hati, how do I wake him for school without him being so manja and demand ni kan? Mesti ade petua kan... So I did some google-reading, majority kata, the best way to wake people up, adelah dengan picit ibu jari kaki, selawat 3 kali, baca ayat kursi and all. Macam-macam. But the key is, picit ibu jari kaki. So sajelah kan nak cuba...

So kelmarin, mase kejut Zaim, cubalah picit ibu jari kaki Zaim, sambil goyang2 skit kaki dia and calling his name.. Actually lupe plak jari mane, so Mommy picit2 semua 10 jari kaki dia.. Hahaha belasah jelah... And sangat amazing bile Zaim terus celik and senyum.... Instead of golek2 kat katil, dia terus turun katil and duduk bersila atas lantai... Bukak socks and then terus ajak Mommy mandi.. Huhuhu... Mommy masih lagi terkaku... Antara percaya atau tidak... Mimpi ke ape ni.... Hihihih...

Yesterday I tried again... Lagi hebat. Sekali picit aje, Zaim terus bangun... And macam semalam dia terus turun katil and bukak stokin... Ikut je Mommy ajak mandi... ;) So just nak share to all Mommies out there yang having difficulties to wake ur kids up, try la petua ni.. Tatau la kan berkesan kat semua ke tak.. tapi it really works for me... at least for now lah...

Hihihi sekarang kurang dah stress pagi-pagi... Hurmmm... niat di hati esok pagi nak cuba jugaklah teknik ni kat Babah dia lak.. Tengok berkesan ke tak? Hahahaha jangan kene tendang sudahhhh.... ;P

18 months: Aariz is a toddler!

Yezaaa, my little tough baby turns 18months! He is by no means a baby anymore, but a full grown toddler. My, oh, my... cepatnyee dia besar! Besar sampai lebih besar dari Zaim! Just that the fact that he is shorter than his big bro… Tu yang nampak dia adik. Kalau duduk sesame, memang confuse orang tengok… 
 

Betul tak Mommy cakap I am bigger than my big bro?

I am 14kg, lagi 2kg je nak same berat ngn Zaim ;)

And you know what... I can wear Zaim's jeans.. Hahahah...

Oh, to update, lepas kejadian Aariz makan staples tu, Aariz dah mule makan macam biase! Tapi ade jugakla on off dia.. Cerewet jugak memilih food...Cukup perisa memang makan byk, kalau kurang-kurang perisa tu, makan ala kadar je... Huhuh not good dik...

Sekarang ni Aariz does a lot of baby babble too! Mostly Mommy memang tak faham pun ape dia cakap walopun dia cakap bersungguh-sungguh pointing here and there sambil mengangguk-angguk kepala.. Iyekan jelah... Kalau dia failed to make people understand what he's trying to say, dia akan tarik tangan kite, pegang le TV ke remote ke CD ke, sambil buat bahasa isyarat... Then kalau tak fhm or buat-buat tak faham, ribut guling guling... He is good in throwing big tantrum! Hahaha.. dah le debab kan berat hampir same ngan abang, harus la Mommy bia je dia melentik2 kat bawah... Nak dukung pujuk-pujuk memang tak larat, takot jatuh je... Silap aribulan, dia hantuk kepala dia, memang pecah bibir kite... Huhhu.. 

His words tak byk sgt but okaylah... Maybe dia tengah absorb all those words yang dia dengar and tak jumpe lagi cara nak sebut balik... but I noticed in the last couple of weeks, his vocab is improving! All of sudden he is saying new words even not every day and the pronunciation has gotten very clear! So thankful with his progress although am quite nervous and a bit worry at first because compared to Zaim who start talking on his 12 months, he is so late. But remember, all children develop at their own paces and I know he will one day just start talking. Mommy confident you can do it Aariz! Am I sound to positive here? Ngeeee…

Here are the words that he can speak clearly; yang mane Mommy ingatlah...

• Babah – his fav word! Nampak je kete oe kelibat Babah, kelam kelibut lari-lari, panggil Babah…
• Car – this one is one of his first word
• Audi – too bad Audi is no longer with us now. Babah dah ade gf baru skg…
• Zzzzzzzzzzziiiziiiii – Susu! Haaa jenuh kan nak sebut…
•  Jijak – Cicak
• Mamam – Makan
• Nak – Nak
• Nanak – Tak nak
• Dog
• Tat - Cat
• Poyoyo – Pororo and Pocoyo
• Oyo – Oreo and Oso
• Angan! - Jangan
• No
• Ball
• and finally he can say Mommmeyyyy!!!

Memang rase nak lompat-lompat! Susah sgt nk dengar dia panggil Mommy except kalau time nangis or tantrum! But now, asal nampak Mommy, cute je dia panggil Mommey... sukeee sgt! ;) Nangis pon panggil Mommey skg... Kalau tak, asik sebut Babah je... Jeles okey! Tapi sekarang tidak lagi.... ;)

Sekarang Mommy selalu rase berat hati nak gi keje. Sebab rase nak je duk umah main-main ngan Adik.. Mommy jeles tau Bibik asik spend time ngan Adik... Huhuh... Kalau Mommy nak gi work and nak salam Aariz, Aariz mesti lari2 suh kejar dia keliling rumah... Peluh2 jugak Mommy kejar dia... Tapi bile dengar dia ketawa terkekek-kekek tu, sanggup Mommy sambung lari lagi 10km... Hahah tipu tipu.. Semput jugak kan kalau 10km... ;P 

Btw, Aariz dah kamceng jugak with Zaim sekarang... Dah boleh la main same-same, kejar-kejar and wrestling-wrestling... Dulu byk gaduh dari main, sekarang ni kire balance la.. Adatla kan main-main pastu gaduh... Memang riuh rumah, termasuk la suara Warden Mommy ni... Hahaha... Tak aman kot jiran sebelah... ;P 

Contoh activity membuli ibu bapa di rumah... 

Mommy kene lagi teruk tapi tayah la tunjuk... Hahahah karang fobia orang nak dapat anak laki 2 org... ;P

 Seriously, sekejap sgt rase Aariz dah besar.. Wuuuwuwuwuw...

Whoaa... yang ni lagi dah besar... 

Boleh tau Zaim cakap camni: "Mommy weekend ni, cuti, I want to go with my friends ok...?"

I can write my own name!

Oh not me.. Of course I can... I mean, Zaim!!!! Unbelievable!!! Ok, maybe I should not shout or overacting about this tapi... what the heck mannnn....mane leh tahan perasaan ini... My son can write his own name!! Sape tak suke kan??? I mean sapa tak suke anak sendiri pandai tulis kan? kan? kan? Mommy serious rase nak joget sambil nangis-nangis... Actually memang dah buat pun! Hahahaha...

Nak jadi macik kepoh kejap... Cerita nye camni, semalam saje nak teman Zaim reading kat bilik dia. I asked him to pick one book to read... Baru je bace 2 pages, suddenly...

Zaim: Mommy, wait eh. I want to take pencil.

Mommy: Why? We don't need pencil lah abang. We just want to read the book.

Zaim: I know, tapi... I want to draw Wan Zaim Idlan.

Mommy: U mean write your name? 

Zaim: Yes! Mommy tunggu lah tau.. Kejap Zaim amik pencil..

Mommy: Abang dah pandai tulis ke?

Zaim: Dah la Mommy... Nanti Mommy tengok...

And then he wrote this.. without any guidance from me...

Can you spot his name? ;P 

Cute tak??? 

Weeehooo... Am proud Mommy again.. Why? Because I never teach him how to write ABC yet... Okay memang la bukan in straight line mcm yang sepatutnye... Tapi still acceptable lah kan...  Sebabnye last year memang Q.dees tak ajar writing lagi sebab 3 yo kid too small for writing. Reason, tak bagus for their bone structure... This year baru teacher kate, start writing... So Mommy bajet, belajar kaler2, or conteng2 or lukis2 la kot... Kan baru sebulan school... Tup tup... Dah pandai tulis name sendiri... Cuma kene practice byk2 lagi la.. Hihi...

Lepas tu, Mommy pon kelam kelibut la btau Babah.. Huhuh dia pun excited tapi tadelah seover Mommy. Hahaha.. Then Zaim tanak tulis dah... Nak main lukis-lukis lak... And terkejut jugak when he draw this!

  A car!!!! Selalu nye conteng kaler or paling hebat pun lukis Sun or shapes...Okaylah kan.. ade jugak tayar and yeah, ziqzag tu tanda Lightning kononye ini adelah Lightning McQueen! Hahahah

Sukeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!



Kecoh makcik ni kan... ;P